Are you tired of arguing, being romantically disappointed or hurt? If you are experiencing any of these things you may be feeling deep sadness, anger, resentment or loneliness. Struggling marriages are far too common these days. If you are committed to a life of marriage together it takes a lot of work and effort to keep it healthy and happy.
We all grow up in different families being modeled various love styles, communication and behavior. It is no wonder that we experience challenges with our spouses. The good news is that there is help and hope for your marriage. My focus in working with married couples is to understand relationship patterns, attachment styles, to improve communication and problem solving skills, increasing empathy and emotional connection with one another.
According to research, many couples wait on average 6 or 7 years before entering into counseling. Often by the time couples reach a therapist’s office their relationship is operating under a great deal of distress. What this means is that marital therapy can take time. Consider that it probably took quite a few years for you to arrive at this place in your marriage. There is hope that help is available and with time and dedication things can turn around for the good for you and your spouse.
How I Work With Couples
We will all meet together for the first session. My first session with married couples lasts approximately 75 minutes. If I feel like I can be helpful to you and your spouse, we will schedule a second appointment. During the second and third appointments I will meet with each of you individually for approximately 50 minutes. During the fourth meeting we will all reconvene at which time we will discuss our treatment goals and come up with a plan that we all agree upon. Going on from here, we will all meet together for future sessions, although I might ask for an individual meeting with one or both of you if I think it is appropriate and can be helpful.
Most couples come to therapy because they want to restore their relationships. I try and offer ways for healing, encouragement, and hope. I am passionate about working with couples. I feel like if I can help save a marriage, we can also model to their children ways to handle relationship hardships and distress. In so doing, they can see there are constructive ways to deal with troubled relationships. If we are able to do this we can also impact generations to come. I love this model for healing and restoration.
I take a collaborative approach with my marriage clients, however I am directive in my process I don’t just sit and listen. I offer and utilize the most effective strategies, teach skills, and help clients to regain trust and confidence in their spouses. If your marriage is in trouble and you need help, please call me for a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation (424) 206-9055. I can answer any other questions you may have.
I also offer marriage intensives. What this means is that we meet everyday for 5 consecutive days for approximately 90 minutes. This is a concentrated period of time that we focus on your marriage issues. This is ideal for clients flying in from other parts of the country or for people who want to get a jumpstart on their marriage challenges. If you are interested in finding places to stay during your visit, please see the Client Resources for more information.
My approach to marriage therapy is informed by Attachment Theory, Attachment Core Pattern Therapy, Emotion Focused Therapy and the forty years of research done by John Gottman, Ph.D., the country’s foremost relationship expert. I have completed level I, level II and level III training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy.• • •