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Affairs, Betrayal, and Couples Therapy

Posted on: March 13th, 2024 by Our Team

Affairs and betrayals are devastating, especially in a committed relationship. The betrayal is considered by researchers and therapists as traumatic, leaving many with symptoms related to PTSD. Shock, anger, anxiety, sadness, and hopelessness are just some of the feelings that can leave couples overwhelmed with a sense of helplessness and despair. When affairs and betrayal occur, couples therapy may be your best next step.

Broken Trust

Broken trust in a committed relationship can feel like your world is shattering. Many couples feel lost, confused, not knowing where to turn or who to turn to for help. Individuals and couples often struggle in isolation feeling alone. Intrusive thoughts can take over leading you to believe your relationship may be over or can never recover. Although this can seem like the only outcome, there is hope that your relationship can be restored.

Restoring Your Relationship

If you are willing, you and your partner can learn how to process and deal with the trauma of the betrayal. Experiencing healing and restoration is possible. Although there are no guarantees, many of my clients who have experienced affairs and betrayals have rebuilt their relationships. Your relationship may look different following an affair or betrayal, however there is hope things can get better. Even if you don’t know how things may go, reaching out to a relationship expert is a courageous next step.

Affair Model for Recovery

I use a model that compassionately assists my clients as they struggle to rebuild their relationship. It is based on the research and work of Drs. John and Julie Gottman for affair recovery. This intervention for treating affairs and betrayal involves 3 stages: Atone, Attune, and Attach.

This affair recovery model provides a roadmap to rebuilding trust in the relationship after a betrayal. I provide a safe and neutral environment assisting you in navigating and processing challenging feelings and conversations. When feelings are escalated, and emotions are fueled it can be difficult to communicate with your partner. This is where the help of a psychologist can be of great value.

If you are experiencing the trauma of an affair or betrayal and don’t know where to turn, I am here to help. If you would like to find out more, call or email my office to schedule a complimentary consultation (424) 206-9055. I offer hope that things can get better.

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